Male readers - there is something in the middle of the video that is for all readers - not just women!
My one problem with wearing a long, beach-towel sized scarf as a mantilla is that in wider society they are associated with being hejabs. When I have worn shawls in place of a lace mantilla people have mistook me for a Muslim woman who is visiting a church or 'experiencing' the Mass. I'll stick with my dusty silver lace mantilla. One person did describe me as someone who was trying too hard at an audition for the role of a mafia widow. But more lace, more grace?